Leila, one of my buddies, sent me (and I guess the rest of you who are also HERE), telling us that she recieved "HATE" mail. Anyway, the PM developed into a rather comical discussion but one of the most perceptive replies I observed was that from Philip (zionsake) who said " DO NOT PUT PERSONAL THINGS ON YOUR BLOG, DISCUSS ISSUES INSTEAD". I agree with Philip a hundred percent. You never know who your friends really are and you certainly don't pick them from the vast cyberspace. In an age when terrorism, identity theft, crime, cultural clashes, and "getting offended" is COMMON, it would be incredibly stupid to expose oneself to everyone who reads your blog. You are apt to please and displease people anyway. I should know because I made the same mistake. I thought that "friends" can be found by writing a sentence or two until I discovered that there are an assortment of humorless individuals who deserve the penalty of being tickled all their mortal life AND there are PLAIN lousey people. Of course there are also Bible-thumpers but for some reason, they do NOT annoy me :) A friend is REAL. It's someone you know FOR YEARS. Someone you call up in the middle of the night despite THE time zone. Sure, you can find a friend in the internet BUT one should feel some "cosmic connection" ! IF you are still FRIENDS for something like ten years despite your political,criminal,religious, non-religious, intellectual, non-intellectual views -- then, you have an authentic friend. It isn't the real life meetings that MAKE a friend BUT the fact that there is a chemistry of souls.You can't be a friend to someone you've met personally for five hours or even a day because being a friend is like sex *lmao*. Slowly, you expose yourself and your vulnerability much as the other person does until you KNOW that she/he can be called YOUR FRIEND. Philip was right. Keep your privacy and stick to discussions and you do NOT OPEN yourself to "crazies" you don't even know. Do not have the penchant of saying "we can be friends" because friendship is too precious to be perfunctory and cheap. You can laugh with your blogging buddies and ENJOY as much as you want, but there should always be sense of caution in "picking out" instant buddies in cyberspace because there are NO instant friends. There are just some things which cannot be "packaged"
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 | I agree....That is why I don't even put my town....you never know who can come by....and learn WAY to much about you...Cyber stalkers is NOT my idea of a good time....Good post BTW...!! |
 | Great warning, good post! |
 | Good post and so true. I think personal blogs should be confined only to your limited contacts..people who you know can be trusted. The "chemistry" is a vital component for a friendship to flourish and be nurtured. |
 | Ummm who is the person who comments on Dar's blog, Laila? I'd like to know, as I have known most everyone on there for a while now and know that the people Dar chooses to associate with are not hate mongers or harassers. I want to know, because if someone is being threatening to you and they are putting forth a different face on Dar's page..I am sure he'd want to know to. Thanks. As far befriending people online, yes ,caution should always be advised. |
| I would just like to say that if there is anyone on my page or in my contacts to be found harassing anyone in a defamatory manner that I have nothing to do with it. I also would like to invite anyone to view MY blog title. Here,to see just exactly what has transpired.IF the comments of the authors who called ME and MY page haters.I am ready and willing to defend myself from such aslander and have many blog entries to prove that i am not what i have been accused of by laila and Her mother.again Anyone that has been harassing her or anyonhe else has nothing to do with me and i do not condone it.I have no use for such games.I have moved and and will continue to do so.I don't have time for this childishness. http://daralharb.multiply.com/journal/item/317/ISLAMTHE_RELIGION_OF_CHOICE_FOR_RAPISTS_AND_PEDOPHILES |
| Sorry Bugsey if i have brought any trouble to your web site ,i apologize. |
| Oh one more thing i would love to see the proof of this harasser,i will help you and make sure they are punished,no matter who it is. |
|  I would just like to say that if there is anyone on my page or in my contacts to be found harassing anyone in a defamatory manner that I have nothing to do with it.
I also would like to invite anyone to view MY blog title. Here,to see just exactly what has transpired.IF the comments of the authors who called ME and MY page haters.I am ready and willing to defend myself from such aslander and have many blog entries to prove that i am not what i have been accused of by laila and Her mother.again Anyone that has been harassing her or anyonhe else has nothing to do with me and i do not condone it.I have no use for such games.I have moved and and will continue to do so.I don't have time for this childishness.
http://daralharb.multiply.com/journal/item/317/ISLAMTHE_RELIGION_OF_CHOICE_FOR_RAPISTS_AND_PEDOPHILES  I fully support and back up every word Dar says here. I have known Dar for a good while and the implication that he would be or was complicit in any kind of harassment or allowed it, invited it, what have you..is flat out wrong.
Say what you will about me, I don't care. But, Dar deserves none of the negativity and childishness that was directed at him by some and has done nothing but try and open minds and eyes to the evil of islam. Pure and simple. The only hate on his page is that of islam. I am sorry, Bugsey, if this response distracts from your blog's point, it's not intentional, but quite frankly, I too am tired of silly games and childish nonsense. I intend to keep fighting islamic ideology..labeled a hater or not. So be it. |
 | if you really want to be private, dont blog at all. write analog in your old fashioned diary and lock it somewhere. lol! but if you blog, there's always that risk of stepping on some sensitive toes. you can minimize that by being less personal, but hey, blogging has always been personal. every thing we say here is personal, whether we tackle issues or chismis stuff. we can only manage the risk, but not totally eliminate it. |
 | Expossed & embarassed, what is there to hate? Confession is sweet to the soul. I guess when the sin question is taken care of what is left to hate? I don't know, but who really enjoys criticism? Point a finger and three point back. How can we judge unless we have been there and done that? I'm still a sceptic of private people who hide and desire to "copyright" anything they say publically or use aliases. We all stand naked before Him Whom we all have to deal with and are accepted. That's grace! |
| Can I ask what happened to the comment left at the very beginning by Laila? I don't see it nor see the usual 'comment removed by author' bit. ??? It says 11 comments but i see only 10? |
 | bugsey wrote on Apr 14, edited on Apr 14 No idea I just arrived at my blog now Ninja! Tell me about it:) *will see tho' but would appreciate a pm* |
| bugsey wrote on Apr 14, edited on Apr 14 I have moved and and will continue to do so.I don't have time for this childishness.
http://daralharb.multiply.com/journal/item/317/ISLAMTHE_RELIGION_OF_CHOICE_FOR_RAPISTS_AND_PEDOPHILES I loved reading your link *lmao* and you are RIGHT! Actually, I was simply using Laila's pm as an example and wasn't referring to anything. Will someone please UPDATE me on "the present issue"*lmao*. I didn't read the first comment because it was deleted and I just got online now...please someone update me! Anything hapening guys *will someone pm me?*
I just LOVE INFIDELS!!!! a lot.. :) |
 | thought-provoking. hmmmm....
i agree that blogs should "not be too personal", though the temptation to write one's angst out is sometimes too great. |
| bugsey wrote on Apr 14, edited on Apr 14 if you really want to be private, dont blog at all. write analog in your old fashioned diary and lock it somewhere. lol! but if you blog, there's always that risk of stepping on some sensitive toes. you can minimize that by being less personal, but hey, blogging has always been personal. every thing we say here is personal, whether we tackle issues or chismis stuff. we can only manage the risk, but not totally eliminate it. Dave... I think that writing and locking a an old fashioned diary in the 21st century would give you a drama queen award! :) *joke* I mean unless you want someone later to find it for some movie script! |
| correct! :-)
but if it can't be avoided in a blog like mine or dave, where our personal profiles are real, the best way to do with angsts that scream for release, is to post them for selected contacts only, those real ones you can trust and are comfortable with.
hey, we do that, right? :-)
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| hahahaha. that way, less hate mail.
still, we can't avoid crazies who post hate messages in our guestbook. still, for the love of blogging and my very few good blogging friends, I'll take the risk by not turning my message board off. |
| Taking your message board OFF is being paranoid! |
| Bugsey i think you are caught up lol,just a little too much drama from those who want attention.Blah ,blah ,blah.I will be writing a blog to attempt to close my side of it.I have ever since just tried to move past this tiny bump in the road but more BS just seems to surface.lol |
| bugsey wrote on Apr 14, edited on Apr 14 Bugsey i think you are caught up lol,just a little too much drama from those who want attention.Blah ,blah ,blah.I will be writing a blog to attempt to close my side of it.I have ever since just tried to move past this tiny bump in the road but more BS just seems to surface.lol Where is the Bullshit meter ? Could be useful to us too *lol*
Yeah, I was LATE!!!! LOL! Hey, maybe we can make some movie? |
 | i think that hate mail is something people have to live with. it's not an issue to me. i believe that those who are crying about something as petty as that should not join groups or discussions that can offend them. i love infidels too. |
| topray,
what are you saying? it's out of the topic. |
| Hey MommyNinja :) Check your pm *grins* |
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